Relational Tech Therapy

Relational Tech Therapy is about the relationships we have with technology and systems and how it impacts our mental health, effectiveness and morale.

Here’s the truth: most people aren’t struggling with technology itself.
They’re struggling with the emotions technology stirs up because of their relationship with it.

The anxiety when a system breaks down and no one knows how to fix it.
The shame of what being “bad at tech” means about who you are as a person.
The helplessness when you’re using three different platforms and none of them are making things easier.

Supposedly, tech is supposed to make things easier, but that doesn’t happen nearly as often as it should.
For so many people, it’s become a source of tension.
And tension—when it builds up, day after day—starts to feel like failure.

Who does their best work feeling like a failure every day?

That’s where I come in.

A Different Approach to “Solving” Tech Problems

I don’t start with systems. I start with people and your relationship with technology and systems.

Before I recommend a new platform, a new process, or a new workflow, I listen.
To the overwhelm.
To the frustration.

To the anxiety.
To the confusion that’s been bubbling under the surface.

Then I translate.
I take what’s not working—and what you wish was working—and shape it into a system that actually fits.
Not one that’s perfect.
One that’s yours.

This Isn’t Just About the Right Tech or Tools. It’s About Mental Health.

I’ve spent over 15 years as a Chief Technology Officer, and I’ve also earned master’s degrees in both family therapy and social work. I’m a technologist and a relational therapist.
We don’t talk enough about how much emotional labor happens inside our inboxes.
Or how demoralizing it is to get yet another “training” on a system that no one understands.
Or how helpless it can feel to spend hours trying to fix something you don’t even feel equipped to name.

I’ve seen what happens when people feel stuck, ashamed, and left behind.
I’ve seen how that same dynamic plays out in tech—every single day.

I’ve also seen what happens when the light switch flips on.
When someone realizes tech can make life easier, not harder.
That moment? That’s what I call alignment—when what we need and what the technology provides finally meet.
And instead of friction, we get flow.

What I offer isn’t traditional therapy.
But it is a form of healing.
For your processes.
For your systems.
And, most importantly, for the people trying to use them every day.

This Is Why I Created Two Okapis Consulting

I created this company because I believe tech should support emotional well-being—not make it harder to find.
Because the best tools are the ones that make your day feel lighter, not heavier.
And because when we design systems with mental health in mind, the whole organization shifts.

People feel more confident.
Work gets done with more clarity.
And change starts to feel less like a threat—and more like an opportunity.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by your tech stack…
If your team is exhausted from “solutions” that don’t actually solve anything…
If you’re ready for systems that feel like support, not stress—

That’s what I do.

Let’s create something better. Together.

This is Relational Tech Therapy. And it starts here.